Pick Up Women - A How To Guide

If you want to pick up women, the first thing you need to do is ask yourself why? Are you looking for a one-night stand or are you looking for your future wife?



I don't think that your approach varies too drastically in each of these scenarios, but you may be looking for two different types of women. Someone who is OK for one night may not be the one you want to spend your life with. So what you should do is know what you want before you go looking.



What I mean by that is know what traits you are looking for in a woman.



Put these characteristics and qualities down on paper. That way you won't be sidetracked by a beautiful package if the rest of what you are looking for is not there. Or, conversely, if all you want is a beautiful woman then you won't worry about the other qualities that don't cut it.



In addition to knowing what you do want, it helps to write down what you DON'T want. This helps clarify what you are looking for in a woman and can save you a lot of time.



OK, now that you know what you are looking for, start the hunt.



Based on the kind of woman you are looking for, you can decide if you are going to find her at the farmer's market, at the trendy bookstore, at the ballroom dancing class, at the library, on the volleyball court, at the hip night club or at the corner bar.



When you see a woman you want to meet, you can try several approaches. You can try to pick her up with standard but effective pick up lines, with magic tricks to attract women, with a smile and long glance, it all depends.



Once you have decided on your approach, if you haven't already, it is a good idea to try to make her laugh.



Either by your self effacing behavior or your wit or you silly jokes. Once she laughs, her barriers are down and you have a chance of her really getting to know you.



If you have done your homework, you can tell immediately by her body language if she is responding to your advances. If she is, keep on going, but don't lay it on too thick. I think the key is to treat her just like anybody else you have just met in any other scenario, but to add a very subtle, very small flirtation element to the interaction.



That way she understands you are not looking for a new best friend that you are interested in her as a woman.



Don't stick around too long. You want her to know you are a busy guy with lots of fun interesting things going on in your life, but that you would definitely like to meet up with her at another time. This is when you can get her phone number and give her yours, if that is your style.



I wouldn't call her the next day, but you might want to text her later that night, saying it was great meeting her and you hope to be able to talk to her more at a later date.



If she responds immediately, you can continue the conversation from there, but if she doesn't then I would wait and call her the following day and arrange a time to hang out. Good luck.

Dating Beautiful Women - Do You Assume They Are Out of Reach?

A common misconception that many men have is that somehow, if a woman is very good looking, then she must be out of reach for the average guy. Time and time again, this assumption gets proven to be wrong and inaccurate, and yet men hold on to this belief pretty strongly. If you want to break that belief and begin to really succeed with women, then you have to really take a look at the world around you. See how many men have women that seem to be out of their league.



Realize that you, too, can be one of these guys.



Some guys may not like to hear the classic self help message of believe it and achieve it, but when it comes to women, you definitely have to believe it before you can create attraction.



Without the belief in yourself, you will never even try and approach a woman that you perceive to be out of your league. Also, remember that women usually have a really negative self image. so, just because you assume her to be on a higher level, this doesn't mean that she thinks the same way.



What will get your started?



Being able to confidently walk up to a woman, introduce yourself and get a conversation going.



This simple little tip will prove to be more valuable than anything else. You can't win if you don't play the game and you can't create attraction without being able to get an interaction going.



Start approaching women and have the only goal of getting flirtatious conversations going. This alone will build your confidence and put you on the right track.