Tips on How to Talk to Women

I've been thinking about what are the top tips a man should have in mind when learning how to talk to women, and I've come up with these 6:



1. The Smile. If you get this one thing right, it fixes even catastrophic errors in everything else. If you have a nice, big warm smile when talking to women, everything you say, they interpret in the most positive way possible. On the opposite side. You could have the most interesting things to say and ask... but if your facial expression is like that of a serial killer, she won't even let you open your mouth and utter "hi" before she turns her back to you



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A mindset, the proper one. The worst possible mindset to have when talking to a woman is "I am going to try to get her number" or "I'll approach this woman to see if I get lucky". That repels away women faster than you can scream "fast"... Now... what is the mindset and approach that women love the most and get charmed by? The "agenda-less" approach. What's that? It's when you approach a woman with no other goal other than to talk to her, see what's she about, and try to have fun by having a cool conversation with a new person.



3. Talk clearly and strongly. The number one indicator of confidence to a woman is how clearly you speak. In other words, err more on the side of "too loud" rather than "too quiet"



4. The second most important indicator is your posture. Be sure to be upright and and not slouched over. Imagine as if your whole body was pulled by the head (like a string puppet) towards the sky. But only up to a point. If you start raising your nose, you look arrogant, you've seen those guys right? As high as you can, without letting your chin go above parallel to the ground



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Ask a lot of questions, but in the right way. There's two kinds of guys women hate. "Interviewers" and "stand up monologues". By this, I mean that most guys either pound a woman with one boring question after another and make her feel as if she's under an interrogation, or they won't shut up and just talk and talk and talk at the woman, without letting her have a say. Don't be either. Ask her a lot of questions about herself, but come from the mindset of "I want to find out the best and most interesting things about this person", and genuinely, fully be interested to see what she's about.



If you are, your questions will come across right, as "warm curiosity", and not "FBI detective". Be sure to encourage her talking by nodding, keeping up that smile and reaffirming her speech with "aha", "yeah?", "wow, tell me more", "really?"



6. Be yourself ? You must have heard this one a ton of times right? But it's so vague and no one actually tells you what it means. Well, when it comes to women, it relates to that women are disgusted by "posers". What is a poser? A poser is someone who has an agenda and is trying to get something from the woman, by trying to impress her or act in a certain way when talking to her.



His goal is to get the woman to like him by doing things he thinks are interesting.



You might know some of these guys yourself. When they're talking to you or their other buddies, they're normal, but as soon as they get into a conversation with a cute girl, they transform, they start talking with a different, almost cartoonish tonality. They stick their chest out to look tough (or slouch and look just as unnatural)... They keep trying to throw in stupid-funny comments (which they never do with anyone else).



.. They laugh at their own jokes etc... You get the point. Note though... "be yourself doesn't mean"... "do not change" or "do not improve".



It means "do not do fake behavior to get a certain goal out of people". You can always take on the "be your best self" mantra, so that you keep improving your social skills, confidence and your life in general. Then "yourself" will get better and better, and being yourself will bring higher and higher results.